Think for a moment about the word “denial.” Its root is “deny.”
Denying is — by definition — the antithesis of what the intuition is all about.
The intuition is a four step process.
- Tuning into what is in your present moment awareness.
- Accepting it.
- Listening to it. (This includes any necessary interpretation.)
- Acting on it.
Denial destroys the intuitive process at the second step.
Anatomy of Denial
Most denial is caused by ignoring our truth in favor of fear or the ego. Then, we feel guilty for stepping out of our truth. Our ego’s way of dealing with this guilt is to deny it, which only perpetuates the cycle of denial and disrupts our ability to be grounded in our intuitive knowing.
Let’s take Sally. Sally likes Bob. Bob likes race cars and anything that goes fast. Sally couldn’t care less about this sport, and because Sally wants to be liked by Bob, she steps out of her inner truth and pretends to really like race cars.
A few months later, Bob still likes race cars, but Sally feels cheated and disillusioned, because it’s almost all Bob seems to talk about, and she craves a deeper connection with Bob. She feels mildly guilty, but can’t figure out why. Since she feels this guilt and discontent, this feeling of not being right or worthy in some way, she projects it on Bob, and blames his love of race cars.
She misses the intimacy of true connection. She deserves that, doesn’t she?
And so it goes.
Sally denied her own truth, which is what put her in a situation where she was in denial.
Maybe this relationship was a good idea and was right for Sally, and maybe it wasn’t, but because she stepped out of her truth in order to be liked and approved of by Bob, she’s out of touch with what’s best for her.
Her intuition can’t guide her if she’s not willing to accept her own personal truth.
How to Fix It
Luckily, the fix to this is fairly simple — get in touch with your truth.
Check in to see what you are feeling in the NOW.
Are you happy? Angry? Frustrated?
How does it feel inside your body? What sensations are you experiencing?
Is there any truth that needs to be expressed to someone else?
And most importantly, how can you love yourself more for this truth that you are encountering?
Give yourself love for being brave enough to face your truth and to accept it. Some people go their entire lives without doing this!
Once you’ve accepted your truth, you can go through the other two steps of the intuitive process: Listening and Acting.
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This is so true. This is why it’s so important to be connected with our Father in heaven on a daily basis so we won’t have desires that lead us on the wrong paths with people that can harm us.